This week is Fall Prevention Week

This past weekend we ushered in a new season and with the Fall comes National Falls Prevention Awareness Week, observed the first week of autumn to promote and increase public awareness about how to prevent and reduce falls among older adults.  There is a great pamphlet put out by the CDC and MetLife  ( ) which provides a home fall prevention checklist for older adults.  Printing this out and reviewing it annually with the older adults in your life would be a great gift to them, enabling them to age in place safely.



Buckleys to the Rescue!

One of the more interesting jobs that Buckley's for Seniors staffers take on is helping seniors (and others) transition to a new living situation.  We are often called on to help folks get their homes ready for market or just cleaned up a bit while they are rehabilitating from a fall.  When that happens we put together a team that comes in with a smile and an attitude to do whatever it takes to get the job done and get it done the right way. 

Sometimes, due to failing health and an inability to keep up with normal home maintenance, our clients worry about bringing "strangers" in to this less than ideal home.  Not to worry!  We totally understand situations like these and many of us have dealt with our own parents' homes needing some tender loving care.  We are careful to respect your privacy and your "things". 

After a fall, for instance, it is sometimes necessary to make a few modifications to the home to make it safer and easier to navigate.  We can call in universal design specialists that we have vetted for you to install grab bars, build ramps, etc. and we can oversee their work and payment.  When sorting through your personal items, we care for them as we would for our own parents' things: we take care to protect your "collectibles"; we look out for important documents that need to be saved; we gather other papers that we can shred to protect identity; we set aside personal photos and albums, letters, commendations, etc. for family, or perhaps to be given a place of prominence in your "new" home; we can arrange to have a hauling company come by to take away items (old furniture, computers, lawn equipment, etc.) that you no longer need and have them donated to your favorite charity or taken to the "dump"; and we can even make sure all those extra pairs of eyeglasses get dropped off at the local Lions Club!  And if the situation warrants, we can help set up your new home, wherever that may be, by arranging for a moving company and then being there when they arrive to direct the placement of furniture and make sure your pictures get placed in just the right spot!  Please think of us as your surrogate "daughters" (and sons - yes we do have males on our staff ready to assist, too!) and let us help you in whatever capacity you need.  We are just a phone call away and we love what we do!   (Just in case you can't tell,  there are big smiles on the faces behind those masked women above :)


Virginia Livable Home Tax Credit Program

For our friends and neighbors in Virginia who are considering construction on their homes to improve accessibility, the below may be of interest.

The Virginia Livable Home Tax Credit (LHTC) program is designed to improve accessibility and universal visitability in Virginia’s residential units by providing state tax credits for the purchase of new units or the retrofitting of existing housing units.

Tax credits are available for up to $5,000 for the purchase/construction of a new accessible residence and up to 50 percent for the cost of retrofitting existing units, not to exceed $5,000.

Any tax credit that exceeds the eligible individual’s/licensed contractors tax liability may be carried forward for up to seven years. If the total amount of tax credits issued under this program exceeds the $1 million allocation in a given fiscal year, the Virginia Department of Housing and Community Development will pro-rate the amount of credits among the eligible applicants.

For complete details concerning eligibility, requirements and process please see the guidelines and application. For questions please contact Violet Peyton at or by phone at (804) 371-7124.


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The Golden Years

Months ago, while browsing through the book selection at Housing Works in Manhattan, I came across a lovely paperback whose title caught my eye - A Caregiver's Companion (J. Daniel Dymski).  Clearly it was written to support those ministering to older adults and has a definite spiritual bias so I had to buy it.  I was not disappointed and would love to share some of its content from time to time.  Here's a reflection from an unknow author that is worth a read:


Let us take note that it is the old apple trees that are decked with the loveliest blossoms;

That it is the ancient redwoods that rise to  majestic heights;

That it is the old violins that produce the richest tones;

That is the old wine that tastes the sweetest;

That is is for ancient coins, old stamps, antique furniture that many early seek;

That it is when the day is far spent that displays the beauteous colors of the sunset;

That it is when the year is old and has run its course that Mother Nature transforms the world into a fairyland of snow;

That old freinds are the dearest and that it is the old people who have been loved by God for a long, long time.

Thank God for the blessing of old age -- its faith, its hope, its patience, its wisdom, its experience, its maturity.

When all is said and done, OLD is wonderful.


Senior Discounts

We have just been forwarded a list of national companies that offer senior discounts.  This list has not been fully checked for accuracy, but it's a great start!  If you know of any updates or local merchants we should add to the list, please email us at


Applebee's: 15% off with Golden Apple Card (60+)
Arby's: 10% off (55+)
Ben & Jerry's: 10% off (60+)
Bennigan's: discount varies by location
Bob's Big Boy: discount varies by location (60+)
Boston Market: 10% off (65+)
Burger King: 10% off (60+)
Captain D's Seafood: discount varies on location (62+)
Chick-Fil-A: 10% off or free small drink or coffee (55+)
Chili's: 10% off (55+)
CiCi's Pizza: 10% off (60+)
Culver's: 10% off (60+)
Denny's: 10% off, 20% off for AARP members (55+)
Dunkin' Donuts: 10% off or free coffee (55+)
Einstein's Bagels: 10% off baker's dozen of bagels (60+)
Fuddrucker's: 10% off any senior platter (55+)
Gatti's Pizza: 10% off (60+)
Golden Corral: 10% off (60+)
Hardee's: $0.33 beverages everyday (65+)
IHOP: 10% off (55+)
Jack in the Box: up to 20% off (55+)
KFC: free small drink with any meal (55+)
Krispy Kreme: 10% off (50+)
Long John Silver's: various discounts at participating locations (55+)
McDonald's: discounts on coffee everyday (55+)
Mrs. Fields: 10% off at participating locations (60+)
Shoney's: 10% off
Sonic: 10% off or free beverage (60+)
Steak 'n Shake: 10% off every Monday & Tuesday (50+)
Subway: 10% off (60+)
Sweet Tomatoes: 10% off (62+)
Taco Bell : 5% off; free beverages for seniors (65+)
TCBY: 10% off (55+)
Tea Room Cafe: 10% off (50+)
Village Inn: 10% off (60+)
Waffle House: 10% off every Monday (60+)
Wendy 's: 10% off (55+)
White Castle : 10% off (62+) 

Retail And Apparel
Banana Republic: 10% off (50+)
Bealls: 20% off first Tuesday of each month (50+)
Belk's: 15% off first Tuesday of every month (55+)
Big Lots: 10% off
Bon-Ton Department Stores: 15% off on senior discount days (55+)
C.J. Banks: 10% off every Wednesday (60+)
Clarks : 10% off (62+)
Dress Barn: 10% off (55+)
Goodwill: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Hallmark: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Kmart: 20% off (50+)
Kohl's: 15% off (60+)
Modell's Sporting Goods: 10% off
Rite Aid: 10% off on Tuesdays & 10% off prescriptions
Ross Stores: 10% off every Tuesday (55+)
The Salvation Army Thrift Stores: up to 50% off (55+)
Stein Mart: 20% off red dot/clearance items first Monday of every month (55+) 

Albertson's: 10% off first Wednesday of each month (55+)
American Discount Stores: 10% off every Monday (50+)
Compare Foods Supermarket: 10% off every Wednesday (60+)
DeCicco Family Markets: 5% off every Wednesday (60+)
Food Lion: 6% off every Monday (60+)
Fry's Supermarket: free Fry's VIP Club Membership & 10% off every Monday (55+)
Great Valu Food Store: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
Gristedes Supermarket: 10% off every Tuesday (60+)
Harris Teeter: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
Hy-Vee: 5% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Kroger: 10% off (date varies by location)
Morton Williams Supermarket: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
The Plant Shed: 10% off every Tuesday (50+)
Publix: 5% off every Wednesday (55+)
Rogers Marketplace: 5% off every Thursday (60+)
Uncle Guiseppe's Marketplace: 5% off (62+) 

Alaska Airlines: 10% off (65+)
Alamo : up to 25% off for AARP members
American Airlines: various discounts for 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
Amtrak: 15% off (62+)
Avis: up to 25% off for AARP members
Best Western: 10% off (55+)
Budget Rental Cars: 10% off; up to 20% off for AARP members (50+)
Cambria Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
Clarion: 20%-30% off (60+)
Comfort Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Comfort Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
Continental Airlines: no initiation fee for Continental Presidents Club & special fares for select destinations
Dollar Rent-A-Car: 10% off (50+)
Econo Lodge: 20%-30% off (60+)
Enterprise Rent-A-Car: 5% off for AARP members
Greyhound: 5% off (62+)
Hampton Inns & Suites: 10% off when booked 72 hours in advance
Hertz: up to 25% off for AARP members
Holiday Inn: 10%-30% off depending on location (62+)
Hyatt Hotels: 25%-50% off (62+)
InterContinental Hotels Group: various discounts at all hotels (65+)
Mainstay Suites: 10% off with Mature Traveler's Discount (50+); 20%-30% off (60+)
Marriott Hotels: 15% off (62+)
Motel 6: 10% off (60+)
Myrtle Beach Resort: 10% off (55+)
National Rent-A-Car: up to 30% off for AARP members
Quality Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Rodeway Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Sleep Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Southwest Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
Trailways Transportation System: various discounts for ages 50 and up
United Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
U.S. Airways: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount) 

Activities And Entertainment
AMC Theaters: up to 30% off (55+)
Bally Total Fitness: up to $100 off memberships (62+)
Busch Gardens Tampa : $3 off one-day tickets (50+)
Carmike Cinemas: 35% off (65+)
Cinemark/Century Theaters: up to 35% off
U.S. National Parks: $10 lifetime pass; 50% off additional services including camping (62+)
Regal Cinemas: 30% off
Ripley's Believe it or Not: @ off one-day ticket (55+)
SeaWorld Orlando: $3 off one-day tickets (50+)

Cell Phone Discounts
AT&T: Special Senior Nation 200 Plan $29.99/month (65+)
Jitterbug: $10/month cell phone service (50+)
Verizon Wireless: Verizon Nationwide 65 Plus Plan $29.99/month (65+). 

Great Clips: $3 off haircuts (60+)
Super Cuts: $2 off haircuts (60+)


February is American Heart Month

February is American Heart Month, and the National Stroke Association has tools and information that can help you take care of your heart and reduce your risk of stroke.  Never before have I realized the importance of raising awareness of heart health.  Two weeks ago, a dear friend suffered a stroke at the "tender" age of 55.  She had a major risk factor for stroke: atrial fibrillation (Afib)

Afib is a condition where your heart beats irregularly.  It is commonly associated with coronary artery disease, heart attack, heart valve disease, cardiomyopathy and high blood pressure. People who have Afib are five times more likely to have a stroke, and about one in six strokes are caused by Afib.  Other risk factors for stroke are similar to those for heart attacks and include:

  • High blood pressure
  • High cholesterol
  • Diabetes
  • Atherosclerosis
  • Circulation problems
  • Tobacco use and smoking
  • Alcohol use
  • Lack of physical activity
  • Obesity
“The link between Afib and stroke is too serious to be ignored by patients who can be effectively treated to prevent a future stroke,” said Jim Baranski, CEO, National Stroke Association. “We want people to be empowered with the knowledge they need to take charge of their health. " You can gauge your personal stroke risk using the National Stroke Association’s “Stroke Risk Scorecard.” According to the association, up to 80 percent of strokes can be prevented. You can learn how to lower your risk by following their stroke prevention guidelines and talking with a healthcare professional about steps you can take to prevent stroke.
Stroke is a leading cause of disability in the U.S.  Fortunately, my friend is expected to fully recover.  Sadly, this is not usually the case with stroke victims. Celebrate American Heart Month this February by taking advantage of the programs, tools and information National Stroke Association provides.


Thinking ahead

Our New Year's resolutions may already have come and gone but here's one small one that will "pay benefits" down the road if you  just take a bit of time to do it now. 

Have you thought about how you might react if your elderly parent were rushed to the hospital? Be prepared by being proactive!  Minimize the sense of helplessness and urgency by having the proper legal documents in place. The following list is from the National Family Caregivers Association publication, Take Care, Volume 10, #2; Summer 2001.

Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care
Advance Medical Directive
Do-Not-Resuscitate Order
The patient's medical history
A list of patient's allergies
A list of all physicians and consultants (including phone numbers) who are caring for the patient

In addition, keeping a list of your parent's current medications (and dosages) and copies of their insurance card(s) could speed care in an emergency and give you all some peace of mind in the interim.



Excerpt from Buckley's tv interview


Recognizing the Need for Outside Help in Caregiving

Caregivers often don’t recognize when they are in over their heads, and often get to a breaking point. After a prolonged period of time, caregiving can become too difficult to endure any longer. Short-term the caregiver can handle it. Long-term, help is needed.  Outside help at this point is needed.

A typical pattern with an overloaded caregiver may unfold as follows:

  • 1 to 18 months - the caregiver is confident, has everything under control and is coping well. Other friends and family are lending support.
  • 20 to 36 months - the caregiver may be taking medication to sleep and control mood swings. Outside help dwindles away and except for trips to the store or doctor, the caregiver has severed most social contacts. The caregiver feels alone and helpless.
  • 38 to 50 months - Besides needing tranquilizers or antidepressants, the caregiver's physical health is beginning to deteriorate. Lack of focus and sheer fatigue cloud judgment and the caregiver is often unable to make rational decisions or ask for help.

It is often at this stage that family or friends intercede and find other solutions for care. This may include respite care, hiring home health aides or putting the disabled loved one in a facility. Without intervention, the caregiver may become a candidate for long term care as well.

With the holiday season upon us, caregivers feel even more stress -- with planning, shopping and participating in holiday activities. This is a perfect time for family and friends to step up and provide some respite time and caregiving help.  Whether it is provided personally or arranged as a gift of services to be provided by a professional respite company or home care provider, it is a welcome gift.

An article in “Today’s Caregiver” states:

“Nearly one in four caregivers of people with Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias provide 40 hours a week or more of care. Seventy-one percent sustain this commitment for more than a year, and 32 percent do so for five years or more. One of the best gifts you can give someone caring for Alzheimer’s is something that relieves the stress or provides a bit of respite for the caregiver.
The Gift of time: Cost-effective and truly meaningful gifts are self-made coupons for cleaning the house, preparing a meal, moving lawn/shoveling driveway, respite times that allow the caregiver time off to focus on what he/she needs.”

It is also important to note that hiring professional care provider services can provide valuable ongoing support to an overloaded caregiver. A financial planner, care funding specialist or a reverse mortgage specialist may find the funds to pay for professional help to keep a loved one at home. A care manager can guide the family and the caregiver through the maze of long term care issues. The care manager has been there many times -- the family is experiencing it for the first time.

An elder law attorney can help iron out legal problems. And an elder mediator can help solve disputes between family members. There are also cash benefits for Veterans, who served during a period of war, that pay for home care or assisted living.

If you are the one providing daily care for a loved one, you owe it to yourself to seek help.
Take care of yourself and your needsm, both physically and mentally.  Seek out professional help that will ease your burden and look for community service organizations that offer respite help.

The National Care Planning Council’s website contains hundreds of articles with tips and advice for caregivers and their families.  Take a few minutes to find the help you need and enjoy this holiday season.

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